DeepSummary
The episode discusses the importance of setting healthy boundaries and moving on from toxic relationships. Lyss emphasizes that we should not have to lower our values or compromise ourselves for someone else's benefit. She explains that toxic people often provide intermittent reinforcement, creating an addictive cycle that is difficult to break free from.
Lyss shares personal experiences of being in toxic situations and the warning signs to look out for, such as feeling like you're constantly doing something wrong or having to undercut your worth around the person. She advises journaling and reflecting on your boundaries and dealbreakers to gain clarity on what you truly want and deserve.
The key to setting boundaries, according to Lyss, is having unwavering self-love and belief that you deserve better. She encourages listeners to be clear in their communication upfront and to walk away from situations that cross their boundaries, even if it's difficult. Ultimately, respecting yourself is the path to attracting healthier relationships.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Don't compromise your values or lower your standards for someone who doesn't see your worth.
- Toxic relationships often involve an addictive cycle of intermittent reinforcement that's hard to break free from.
- Identify red flags and warning signs of toxic behavior early on, rather than making excuses.
- Know your boundaries, values, and relationship needs through self-reflection and journaling.
- Be clear in communicating your expectations and needs upfront in a relationship.
- Cultivate self-love and believe you deserve a partner who fully accepts and appreciates you.
- Don't be afraid to walk away from situations that cross your boundaries or make you feel unworthy.
- Trust that respecting yourself will attract healthier relationships aligned with what you want.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “It should never take them losing you in order to value you. It should never take you having to walk away or threaten to walk away and have to go through indescribable amounts of pain in order for someone to miss you and to know what they've lost.“ by Lyss
- “Creating healthy boundaries for yourself is doing a lot of self reflection. You have to understand what you actually really want out of a partner. What are you really, really looking for fundamentally at your core?“ by Lyss
- “And once you really, really, really fundamentally believe that you will attract an amazing partner who loves you, who respects you and worships you and values you, and you don't have to prove shit to anyone. You don't have to prove shit to them because they accept you and love you exactly as you are.“ by Lyss
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Date Yourself Instead
Lyss Boss
3/11/24
You shouldn't have to threaten someone in order to stay with you. You shouldn't have to lower your values or your boundaries to stay inside of a relationship. You shouldn't have to compromise your own needs or give up parts of who you are for someone else.
In this episode, I dive into ways to let go of toxic relationship cycles, how to set healthy boundaries, and how to truly move on and be your best self.
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