DeepSummary
In this episode, Vanessa Van Edwards, the founder of The Science of People, shares research-backed strategies and habits that can help anyone become more successful, charismatic, and influential. She discusses the importance of identifying tasks and activities that energize you (your "A work") and those that drain you ("B, C, and D work"), and focusing more on your strengths while delegating or minimizing the draining tasks.
Van Edwards also provides insights into body language cues that can project confidence and influence, such as maintaining an open and expansive posture, using purposeful hand gestures, and standing in strategic locations at social events. She emphasizes the power of verbal cues and intentional language in shaping perceptions and behaviors.
Throughout the episode, Van Edwards offers practical tips and exercises for improving productivity, focus, and communication skills. She stresses the importance of enjoying the process of achieving goals rather than solely focusing on the end result, and encourages listeners to find their "quest" or overarching purpose to drive their actions.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Identify your 'A work' (tasks you excel at and energize you) and focus on them, while delegating or minimizing your 'B, C, and D work' (tasks that drain your energy or you're not skilled at).
- Use open, expansive body language and purposeful hand gestures to project confidence and influence.
- Be intentional with your language and use verbal cues that prime others for desired behaviors and mindsets.
- Stand in strategic locations at social events to facilitate better connections and conversations.
- Don't glorify or compete over busyness and burnout; prioritize activities that energize you and minimize draining tasks.
- Enjoy the process of achieving your goals, not just the end result.
- Find an overarching 'quest' or purpose to drive your actions with meaning.
- Break conversational autopilot and be present to communicate with ease and confidence.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “Busy is not a mark of success. We are not going to have any more. And I hope that maybe we can challenge ourselves. Do not compete for who is busiest. I see so many extremely smart, successful people almost trying to one up themselves or one up others in busyness. Busyness and burnout is not a mark of success.“ by Vanessa Van Edwards
- “If you're burnt out, if you're stuck, if you're feeling like you're underestimated or overlooked, not getting what you want, it doesn't mean you're not trying hard enough. It actually probably means you're trying really, really hard. And it's okay to try a little bit less hard and just do it in different ways.“ by Vanessa Van Edwards
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
Mel Robbins
4/25/24