DeepSummary
In this episode, Jana Kramer interviews author and filmmaker Topaz Adizes about his new book "Twelve Questions for Love" and the importance of asking intentional questions in relationships. Adizes explains how to create a safe space for open and honest conversations by framing questions properly and allowing vulnerability. He shares examples of powerful questions from his book and emphasizes the value of practicing deep communication as a couple.
Kramer and her co-host Kristen Capolino discuss their own experiences with struggling to connect emotionally in their marriages. They express excitement about using Adizes' techniques and resources to facilitate meaningful dialogue with their partners. Adizes provides insights into how he met his wife and the importance of being comfortable with discomfort when exploring relationship challenges.
The conversation highlights the need to move beyond surface-level discussions and embrace introspection as a pathway to growth and deeper intimacy. Adizes offers guidance on navigating power dynamics through thoughtful questioning and creating a mutual space for exploration without confrontation or defensiveness.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Ask open-ended questions that invite exploration rather than binary yes/no answers.
- Create a safe space and establish intention before delving into deeper conversations.
- Frame questions subjectively using "you" language to avoid confrontation.
- Embrace discomfort as an opportunity for growth rather than confusing it with lack of safety.
- Regularly practice having profound dialogues as a couple to build mutual vulnerability.
- Thoughtfully structure conversations through intentional questioning to deepen intimacy.
- Recognize defensiveness often stems from not feeling fully received or understood.
- Approach issues with curiosity and willingness to learn from your partner's perspective.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “What's the pain in me you wish you could heal and why?“ by Topaz Adizes
- “I am not going to make that commitment unless it hits me like a Mack truck.“ by Topaz Adizes
- “You two are breaking my heart. He's like, because you love each other so much and so fully, and it's so on a soul level, and he's like, yeah, it hasn't been built the way you would rebuild it if you could.“ by Kristen Capolino
- “The other thing is, I really appreciate you saying about the vulnerability, because I think it's really important for us to recognize and not confound safety with discomfort or safety with comfort.“ by Topaz Adizes
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Whine Down with Jana Kramer
iHeartPodcasts
5/9/24
If you’re looking to improve your relationship while growing closer and more intimate, you just have to ask the right questions!
Jana is talking with author and filmmaker Topaz Adizes for advice on how to ask your partner intentional questions, how to be honest and open with those closest to you, and how to be comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.
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