DeepSummary
In this episode, Jana Kramer interviews singer-songwriter Stephanie Quayle about her new book 'Why Do We Stay?' which explores Quayle's experiences in toxic relationships. Quayle opens up about being in relationships with two different men who were unfaithful and emotionally abusive. She discusses the challenges of recognizing red flags, being gaslit into questioning reality, and the process of leaving those situations.
Quayle emphasizes the importance of trusting one's intuition and not overriding gut feelings about a partner's behavior. She advises being aware of love bombing and other manipulation tactics. The conversation also touches on the role of past traumas and insecurities in staying too long in unhealthy dynamics. Kramer's niece Ava, who is 17 years old, joins part of the discussion to gain insights for recognizing healthy relationships.
Both Quayle and Kramer stress the need for self-love, doing inner work through therapy or counseling, and being able to happily be alone before pursuing a committed partnership. They share how their current healthy marriages feel different from past toxic bonds. The episode aims to empower listeners to prioritize their well-being and leave situations that do not serve them.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Trust your intuition and don't override gut feelings about a partner's behavior.
- Pay attention to actions over words to recognize someone's true character.
- Practice self-love and be able to happily be alone before pursuing commitment.
- Leave situations that are toxic or unhealthy, even if it's difficult.
- Work through past traumas and insecurities through therapy and inner work.
- Beware of manipulation tactics like love bombing and gaslighting.
- Develop the strength to advocate for your own well-being.
- Healthy relationships feel solidly supportive, not dramatic or draining.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “When people show us who they are, we need to believe them. I mean, we're. Humans are very revealing off the bat, they can say all the things that we want to hear. But their actions. Right.“ by Stephanie Quayle
- “You are your greatest advocate and trust yourself because you are rarely going to be wrong. That's the gift that God gives each and every one of us, is this intuition. And the more we lean into it and trust it, the more it shows up for us.“ by Stephanie Quayle
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Episode Information
Whine Down with Jana Kramer
iHeartPodcasts
4/25/24
Jana connects with recording artist and author Stephanie Quayle to hear her story of finding out about her boyfriend’s infidelities… after his death in a plane crash.
Jana and Stephanie connect over the difficult feelings they experienced when they met the “other” women… and how they recovered from the broken trust.
Plus, Stephanie shares some crucial advice on how to know if you’re being gaslighted.
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