DeepSummary
The episode features an interview with author and comedian Lane Moore about her books on being alone and breaking toxic dating patterns. Moore discusses the societal pressures women face to be in relationships and have families, even if those relationships are unhealthy. She emphasizes the importance of learning to be comfortable alone and developing strong friendships before pursuing romantic relationships.
Moore shares her personal experiences of staying in unfulfilling relationships because she feared being alone. She advises listeners to pay attention to how a potential partner makes them feel and to have the courage to walk away if their needs aren't being met. Moore also highlights the value of having a strong support system of friends who can provide perspective and validation.
The discussion covers common dating mistakes women make, such as ignoring red flags, settling for less than they deserve, and prioritizing romantic relationships over friendships. Moore encourages listeners to set higher standards for themselves and their partners, and to embrace being alone until they find someone truly compatible.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Learn to be comfortable being alone before pursuing romantic relationships.
- Develop strong, supportive friendships as a foundation for self-worth.
- Pay attention to how potential partners make you feel and trust your instincts about red flags.
- Don't settle for less than you deserve - have standards and walk away if your needs aren't met.
- Words and actions from a partner need to align - inconsistency is a red flag.
- Break cycles of attracting the same types of unhealthy partners by addressing root issues.
- Prioritize self-love and validation from friends over societal pressures to be in a relationship.
- Communicate openly with partners about your needs and boundaries.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “The biggest thing that I learned when I started having better friendships is it was harder for me to settle because I was like, the friends that I have in my life are bringing me this incredible energy, this incredible love, this effort. They're bringing all the stuff that I would want from a partner. Now, if somebody comes along in my dating life and they're not giving me that, please, I already see that this exists in my friendship. If you can't be as good as my friends. Yeah, I don't need it.“ by Lane Moore
- “Words and actions need to match. But, you know, sometimes people will be like, oh, my God, totally, yeah, I'll do it. And then they don't do it. And I would feel so crazy and I would be like, well, people are human. Sometimes they're going to mess up. And you start to second guess yourself and think that you don't deserve consistency, you don't deserve words and actions matching up, and you do.“ by Lane Moore
- “I really think, and that's not saying that anybody who makes you feel a little bit anxious, cut and run. I think there are conversations that can be had, but I think that really looking at how somebody makes you feel and you can verbalize those things.“ by Lane Moore
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Episode Information
Whine Down with Jana Kramer
iHeartPodcasts
4/4/24
We need to change the narrative about dating, especially when you feel it’s better to be with the wrong person than be alone. Jana is talking to author and comedian Lane Moore about finding joy in hanging out alone.
Find out how to become your own best friend, because you’d never treat a friend the way you treat yourself!
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