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In this two-for-one podcast episode, Tim Ferriss celebrates the 10th anniversary and over one billion downloads of his show by curating some of his favorite conversations from the past decade. The first segment features Greg McKeown, author of 'Essentialism', discussing how to avoid the planning fallacy, focus on what's truly essential, and create systems for effortless execution. McKeown shares insights like identifying the 'one decision that removes a thousand decisions' and the benefits of periodic personal quarterly offsites.
The second segment is with Diana Chapman, co-author of 'The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership'. Chapman guides listeners through exercises like the 'whole body yes/no' inventory and Byron Katie's 'The Work' to increase self-awareness, take radical responsibility, and reduce drama in life and relationships. She also discusses the risks she and her husband took to keep their marriage vital over decades and nurture intimacy.
Throughout, both guests provide thought-provoking perspectives and practical tools for essentialism, conscious living, candor, and continual growth - individually and in relationships. The episode aims to introduce lesser-known yet impactful voices alongside celebrated ones.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Practice essentialism by identifying the 'one decision that removes a thousand decisions' and creating systems to effortlessly execute what's essential.
- Question deeply held beliefs through frameworks like Byron Katie's 'The Work' to open up new perspectives and possibilities.
- Develop self-awareness by routinely tuning into whole-body sensations of 'yes' or 'no' as guidance.
- Nurture vital, intimate relationships by having the courage to reassess existing dynamics and consciously co-create new ways of relating.
- Schedule regular 'personal quarterly offsites' to reflect, gain clarity on priorities, and adjust your life's direction.
- Embrace candor in communication by voicing experienced bodily reactions without judgment.
- Distinguish between constructive 'loving pressure' that prompts growth versus unproductive criticism in relationships.
- Approach life with a sense of curiosity, play and willingness to learn from all experiences, preferred or not.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “Is it true? Can you absolutely know it's true?“ by Diana Chapman
- “What are you feeling right now? So if I need to keep checking with my feeling states, another one would be, what do you appreciate about somebody around you right now?“ by Diana Chapman
- “What do you believe you're right about your story? And so we're helping you question that so that you can now be aware and present for the possibility that you might be going into a depressive state in the future.“ by Diana Chapman
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The Tim Ferriss Show
Tim Ferriss: Bestselling Author, Human Guinea Pig
5/24/24
This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #355 "Greg McKeown — How to Master Essentialism" and episode #536 "Diana Chapman — How to Get Unstuck, Do “The Work,” Take Radical Responsibility, and Reduce Drama in Your Life."
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Timestamps:
[05:26] Notes about this supercombo format.
[06:28] Enter Greg McKeown.
[06:49] What is non-essential?
[07:46] Overcoming the planning fallacy.
[13:30] The problem with taking ownership of someone else’s problems.
[15:44] How to avoid committing to the unsustainable.
[21:26] Three rules.
[25:28] The personal quarterly offsite.
[33:05] Enter Diana Chapman.
[33:22] A transformative gift.
[36:56] The Drama Triangle.
[43:36] The whole-body yes (or no) and how it can serve us.
[46:06] Diana guides an experience to help pay better attention to our whole-body yes (or no).
[54:36] Observations made during the exercise and how Diana recommends using this inventory.
[1:01:39] Fostering playfulness for those who mute their desire to celebrate.
[1:08:28] Diana’s “black belt in practicing candor.”
[1:09:37] Diana’s thoughts on loving pressure and how to bring it into a relationship.
[1:13:24] Applying loving pressure to people you don’t know well.
[1:15:08] Diana’s guidance on introspection leading to perspective shifts; using Byron Katie’s “turnarounds.”
[1:17:48] Diana guides me through a turnaround.
[1:23:58] A turnaround’s purpose is to identify and embrace alternatives, not invalidate the inspected belief.
[1:29:06] The importance of introducing the somatic into the process; suggestions for difficulty with this step.
[1:31:47] The role of the witness in this process.
[1:33:54] Walking the line.
[1:35:40] Welcoming the opportunity to learn from the experience, even if it’s not preferred.
[1:37:35] Alternative tools for dysregulation in the moment.
[1:39:31] Risks Diana and her husband Matt took to keep their relationship vital; who initiated the first difficult conversation.
[1:45:11] How Diana figured out who she needed to be during this time.
[1:47:11] Navigating decision points together as a couple.
[1:49:42] Examples of commitments from The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership.
[1:53:22] The Mind Jogger app and how Diana uses it with the commitments.
[1:55:55] Assessing self-awareness in hiring interviews applied to non-job situations.
[1:57:53] Books most gifted.
[1:59:35] Parting thoughts.
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