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The episode features segments from previous podcasts with guests Greg McKeown and Diana Chapman. Greg McKeown discusses the concept of 'essentialism,' which is the disciplined pursuit of less to focus on what truly matters. He provides tips on overcoming the planning fallacy, avoiding unsustainable commitments, and conducting personal quarterly offsites to reflect on long-term goals.
Diana Chapman shares insights from her book 'The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership.' She guides listeners through an exercise to identify the 'whole-body yes' and recognize when they are in alignment or not. Chapman also explains the 'drama triangle' and how to use Byron Katie's 'turnarounds' to question limiting beliefs.
Additionally, Chapman discusses her partnership with her husband Matt and the risks they took to keep their relationship vital. She emphasizes the importance of candor, loving pressure, and continually evolving as individuals and as a couple.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Practice essentialism by focusing on the vital few commitments and activities that truly matter, and eliminating the trivial many.
- Conduct regular personal 'offsites' to reflect on long-term goals and ensure daily actions align with what's truly essential.
- Use the 'whole-body yes' exercise to cultivate self-awareness and identify when you are in or out of alignment with your values and priorities.
- Question limiting beliefs by employing Byron Katie's 'turnaround' technique to consider alternative perspectives.
- Nurture healthy relationships by embracing candor, loving pressure, and a willingness to continually evolve as individuals and as partners.
- Reduce drama by taking radical responsibility for results and letting go of the need to be right.
- Implement practices like Mind Jogger to regularly prompt self-reflection on key commitments and priorities.
- Approach relationships and commitments with a beginner's mindset, open to possibilities beyond existing dynamics or beliefs.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “I'm willing to open to the possibility that not being married is just as okay as being married. And what that has created is an incredibly vital, creative, ever evolving, passionate marriage in which we're freed up to keep exploring new ways of being together.“ by Diana Chapman
- “People don't do moderation. Well, I decided to go off sugar a year ago, almost a year ago, New Year's Eve, talking to somebody. I've been thinking about doing it for a while. They've been off sugar for twelve years. And I'm like, okay, if you can do twelve years, I can do a year.“ by Greg McKeown
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Episode Information
The Blog of Author Tim Ferriss
5/24/24
This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #355 “Greg McKeown — How to Master Essentialism” and episode #536 “Diana Chapman — How to Get Unstuck, Do “The Work,” Take Radical Responsibility, and Reduce Drama in Your Life.”
Please enjoy!
Bios of guests may be found at tim.blog/combo.
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SHOW NOTES
- [05:26] Notes about this supercombo format.
- [06:28] Enter Greg McKeown.
- [06:49] What is non-essential?
- [07:46] Overcoming the planning fallacy.
- [13:30] The problem with taking ownership of someone else’s problems.
- [15:44] How to avoid committing to the unsustainable.
- [21:26] Three rules.
- [25:28] The personal quarterly offsite.
- [33:05] Enter Diana Chapman.
- [33:22] A transformative gift.
- [36:56] The Drama Triangle.
- [43:36] The whole-body yes (or no) and how it can serve us.
- [46:06] Diana guides an experience to help pay better attention to our whole-body yes (or no).
- [54:36] Observations made during the exercise and how Diana recommends using this inventory.
- [1:01:39] Fostering playfulness for those who mute their desire to celebrate.
- [1:08:28] Diana’s “black belt in practicing candor.”
- [1:09:37] Diana’s thoughts on loving pressure and how to bring it into a relationship.
- [1:13:24] Applying loving pressure to people you don’t know well.
- [1:15:08] Diana’s guidance on introspection leading to perspective shifts; using Byron Katie’s “turnarounds.”
- [1:17:48] Diana guides me through a turnaround.
- [1:23:58] A turnaround’s purpose is to identify and embrace alternatives, not invalidate the inspected belief.
- [1:29:06] The importance of introducing the somatic into the process; suggestions for difficulty with this step.
- [1:31:47] The role of the witness in this process.
- [1:33:54] Walking the line.
- [1:35:40] Welcoming the opportunity to learn from the experience, even if it’s not preferred.
- [1:37:35] Alternative tools for dysregulation in the moment.
- [1:39:31] Risks Diana and her husband Matt took to keep their relationship vital; who initiated the first difficult conversation.
- [1:45:11] How Diana figured out who she needed to be during this time.
- [1:47:11] Navigating decision points together as a couple.
- [1:49:42] Examples of commitments from The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership.
- [1:53:22] The Mind Jogger app and how Diana uses it with the commitments.
- [1:55:55] Assessing self-awareness in hiring interviews applied to non-job situations.
- [1:57:53] Books most gifted.
- [1:59:35] Parting thoughts.
SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE
Connect with Greg McKeown:
Website | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram
- Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown | Amazon
- Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most by Greg McKeown | Amazon
- The Greg McKeown Podcast
- Finding the One Decision That Removes 100 Decisions (or, Why I’m Reading No New Books in 2020) | Tim Ferriss
- The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Tim Ferriss | Amazon
- The Planning Fallacy Can Derail a Project’s Best Intentions | The Washington Post
- Why You Start Things You’ll Never Finish | The New York Times
- Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend | Amazon
- The Effective Executive: The Definitive Guide to Getting the Right Things Done by Peter F. Drucker | Amazon
- Quarterly Personal Offsite Meetings | Dennis Kennedy
Connect with Diana Chapman and the Conscious Leadership Group:
Website | Twitter | Facebook | YouTube
- The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership: A New Paradigm for Sustainable Success by Jim Dethmer, Diana Chapman, and Kaley Klemp | Amazon
- Q&A with Diana Chapman on Conscious Leadership | Criteo
- Hendricks Institute
- Karpman Drama Triangle | Wikipedia
- Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice from the Best in the World by Timothy Ferriss | Amazon
- Jim Dethmer — How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive, and More | The Tim Ferriss Show #434
- Mind Those Q’s | Think Shift
- Whole Body Yes | The Conscious Leadership Group
- Miracle (2004) | Prime Video
- The Work of Byron Katie
- Some Practical Thoughts on Suicide | Tim Ferriss
- Fear-Setting: The Most Valuable Exercise I Do Every Month | Tim Ferriss
- Feeding Your Demons: Ancient Wisdom for Resolving Inner Conflict by Tsultrim Allione | Amazon
- Mind Jogger for iOS | LeStro’s Apps
- How to Assess Self-Awareness in a Hiring Interview | Conscious Leadership Group Blog
- The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks | Amazon
- Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment by Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks | Amazon
- The Genius Zone: The Breakthrough Process to End Negative Thinking and Live in True Creativity by Gay Hendricks | Amazon
PEOPLE MENTIONED
- Henry Cloud
- Oprah Winfrey
- Peter Drucker
- Dustin Moskovitz
- Gay Hendricks
- Katie Hendricks
- Stephen Karpman
- Jim Dethmer
- Byron Katie
- Matt Chapman
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