DeepSummary
The podcast episode starts with an ad for the upcoming Pixar movie Inside Out 2, followed by an ad for a Weber grill. The hosts Zach Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp introduce themselves and explain that they will be answering a listener's question about how to keep the memory of her late brother alive for her unborn child who will never meet him.
They provide suggestions such as creating memory books with photos and stories, incorporating his name into the child's name or nickname, celebrating his birthday or other special occasions, and being open about discussing his passing with the child from an early age. They emphasize the importance of keeping the memory present through traditions and sharing memories as the child grows older.
In the Triumphs and Fails segment, Elizabeth shares a touching triumph about her 12-year-old son Henry choosing to have a meal with her during a break from the school play he is involved in. Jamilah shares a triumph wrapped in an upsetting incident where her 11-year-old daughter Naima was called a racial slur while walking to the store but handled it with poise. Zach triumphs about a spontaneous family trip to see a Chinese lantern festival at a zoo.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Create memory books, photo albums, or scrapbooks with photos and stories about the deceased loved one to share with the child.
- Incorporate the deceased loved one's name or a special connection to them into the child's name, nickname, or traditions.
- Discuss the person openly with the child from an early age, including the fact that they have passed away, to normalize and destigmatize death.
- Share memories, stories, movies, and activities connected to the deceased loved one as the child grows to keep their presence alive.
- Be prepared for memories of the loved one to resurface unexpectedly and use those moments as opportunities to connect the child to them.
- Build the child's confidence and resilience through open dialogue to help them cope with difficult topics like racism or loss.
- Make efforts to spend quality one-on-one time with older children and teenagers who are gaining more independence.
- Take spontaneous family trips or short getaways to create new positive shared memories.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “Well, I'm certainly sorry for your loss, and I can imagine how difficult it is for you knowing that your brother won't be there to participate. But it's really up to you to keep your brother alive in your children's heads.“ by Jamilah Lemieux
- “Yeah, you do get to decide who's present. And also that just reminded me, Elizabeth, there's this other thing that's going to happen where you will be reminded of him unexpectedly.“ by Zach Rosen
- “I'm wondering if maybe the eventual fear we think is that that is sad or scary for a small child.“ by Elizabeth Newcamp
- “And it just felt so nice to be chosen by my twelve year old. Even just for a brief moment. Like, I almost feel tears welling up talking about this because it just was a really nice, sweet moment that I feel like we have not really had in a while.“ by Elizabeth Newcamp
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Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show
Slate Podcasts
5/30/24