DeepSummary
In this episode, Ryan Holiday, a bestselling author and philosopher, discusses the importance of saying no, setting boundaries, and creating space for oneself. He shares insights on differentiating between ego and confidence, auditing one's life to prioritize what truly matters, and simplifying productivity by focusing on what's within one's control.
Holiday emphasizes the need to shift from a mindset of saying yes to everything early in one's career to learning to say no and protecting one's time and energy as success comes. He also stresses the significance of studying history and philosophy to gain perspective and avoid getting caught up in the chaos of the present moment.
Additionally, Holiday explores the concept of virtue and what it means to be a good person, encouraging listeners to consider the long-term impact of their actions and decisions. He argues that stoicism is not about apathy or indifference but rather a call to care about others and strive for positive change.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Learn to say no and set boundaries as you progress in your career to protect your time and energy.
- Differentiate between ego and confidence, and avoid letting success or failure define your self-worth.
- Regularly audit your life to prioritize what truly matters and align your actions with your values.
- Simplify your productivity by focusing on what's within your control and not getting caught up in external factors.
- Study history and philosophy to gain perspective and avoid getting overwhelmed by the chaos of the present moment.
- Strive to be a good person by considering the long-term impact of your actions and decisions on others.
- Don't confuse stoicism with apathy or indifference; it's about caring for others and striving for positive change.
- Work on self-improvement in your personal relationships with family as much as your professional life.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “There's this part in your career where you have to say yes to everything. That's how you, like, get something from nothing, right? You just, like, jump on every opportunity, and then there's a point in your career where it switches, and it can come really fast where you have to develop essentially the opposite skill set, which you go from the yes person. I'll do any amount of work, go anywhere at any time, to the person who says, so, you say yes, and then you have to become a no person.“ by Ryan Holiday
- “I'm just trying to work as hard at being better at that stuff as the other stuff.“ by Ryan Holiday
- “Read about moments of history that allow you to understand the moment that you are in and you understand what you see that's so crazy is like, like all the same actors and all the same people are existing in every moment, and that just, it turns down the volume on things.“ by Ryan Holiday
- “I dislike this idea of stoicism as apathy or indifference. She fundamentally wasn't and isn't.“ by Ryan Holiday
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The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast
Lauryn Bosstick & Michael Bosstick / Dear Media
6/10/24
#711: Today we're sitting down for the fourth time with Ryan Holiday. Ryan Holiday is one of the world’s bestselling living philosophers. He has authored books like The Obstacle Is the Way, Ego Is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic, and the #1 New York Times bestseller Stillness Is the Key. He joins us for a conversation surrounding success, creating boundaries, and how to differentiate between ego and confidence. We also discuss how to audit your life and learn to say no, how to simplify your productivity, and know when it's time to take a pause.
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