DeepSummary
The episode is a supercombo featuring segments from two previous interviews - one with Seth Godin, an entrepreneur and author, and the other with Dr. Sue Johnson, a pioneering psychologist in the field of couples therapy. Seth discusses his rules and principles for accepting speaking engagements, navigating life transitions, his daily blogging process, overcoming writer's block, and major business decisions he's made. He also shares his views on education and suggested practices for overwhelmed parents.
Dr. Sue Johnson delves into the peer-reviewed research supporting her work on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and its success rates with distressed couples. She explains the concept of 'hold me tight' conversations, providing examples and guidance on how to facilitate these bonding interactions. Johnson also covers topics like overcoming isolation, the stigma around dependency, attachment parenting vs. sleep training, working through anger in relationships, and reigniting sexual passion.
Both guests share insights from their respective fields, with Seth offering marketing and entrepreneurial wisdom, and Dr. Johnson providing a deep understanding of attachment theory and its applications in couples therapy. The episode covers a wide range of topics related to personal and professional growth, relationships, and emotional well-being.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Seth Godin emphasizes the importance of developing clear principles and rules for decision-making, such as which speaking engagements or business opportunities to accept, in order to stay aligned with one's mission and goals.
- Godin's daily blogging practice and strategies for overcoming writer's block offer valuable insights for writers and content creators.
- Dr. Sue Johnson's work on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the concept of 'hold me tight' conversations provide a framework for improving emotional intimacy and resolving conflicts in relationships.
- Johnson's attachment-based approach to addressing sexual issues and reigniting passion in long-term relationships offers a unique perspective on maintaining healthy and fulfilling intimacy.
- Both guests stress the importance of education and awareness around topics such as relationships, parenting, and emotional well-being, and the need to disseminate evidence-based knowledge in these areas.
- The episode covers a wide range of topics related to personal and professional growth, including navigating life transitions, overcoming isolation and dependency stigma, and finding balance as a parent.
- Seth Godin and Dr. Sue Johnson share their unique perspectives and experiences, offering practical advice and thought-provoking ideas for individuals seeking to improve various aspects of their lives.
- The interviews highlight the value of interdisciplinary knowledge, drawing from fields such as marketing, psychology, attachment theory, and couples therapy to provide a holistic understanding of personal and interpersonal development.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “We need to educate people about relationships. It's insane that we have all this science and understanding and that we are not sharing it and putting it out so that we can have more positive, loving, cooperative relationships and more secure families.“ by Dr. Sue Johnson
- “If it doesn't align with the thing that is your mission and you say yes, then now it's their mission. And there's nothing wrong with being a wandering generality instead of a meaningful specific. But don't expect to make the change you seek to make if that's what you do.“ by Seth Godin
- “The trouble was, the sexual problem was interfering with their safe connection, and everyone was playing it safe and being nice to each other and keeping everything calm. The thing is, what we've learned about attachment science can help us shape our emotional relationships and our sexual relationships. It gives us a map for how to do that.“ by Dr. Sue Johnson
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Episode Information
The Blog of Author Tim Ferriss
6/19/24
This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features segments from episode #138 “How Seth Godin Manages His Life — Rules, Principles, and Obsessions“ and episode #529 “Iconic Therapist Dr. Sue Johnson — How to Improve Sex and Crack the Code of Love.”
Please enjoy!
Bios of guests may be found at tim.blog/combo.
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SHOW NOTES
- [07:36] Notes about this supercombo format.
- [08:39] Enter Seth Godin.
- [09:05] Seth’s rules for speaking engagements and why he developed them.
- [13:53] Navigating life’s big transitions.
- [15:54] Why Seth publishes a daily blog.
- [16:54] Writing process and overcoming blocks.
- [21:01] Top businesss decisions.
- [22:45] Discerning between good and bad ideas.
- [24:27] Are you cut out to be an entrepreneur or a freelancer?
- [30:10] Opportunies Seth is glad he declined.
- [31:56] Money is a story. How does Seth tell it?
- [34:56] Seth on education.
- [38:11] Suggested practices for overwhelmed parents.
- [41:03] Enter Dr. Sue Johnson.
- [41:39] Peer-reviewed clinical research supporting Sue’s work.
- [44:47] EFT’s success rate and clinical definition of success in studies with distressed couples.
- [48:47] Scales used to assess marital satisfaction and bond in research.
- [54:55] Definition of a hold me tight conversation.
- [56:15] Examples of hold me tight conversations.
- [1:05:52] How a hold me tight conversation might work for someone who tends to isolate or feels isolated.
- [1:14:35] Prevalence of isolation and the stigma around “dependency.”
- [1:18:27] Attachment parenting vs. sleep training.
- [1:28:09] Micro-interventions from Rogerian models of therapy (evocative questions).
- [1:36:38] Sue’s response to clients who struggle to identify their feelings in their body.
- [1:43:32] Upping the ante in a hold me tight conversation and its unintended effects.
- [1:45:26] Sue’s approach to helping someone work through anger.
- [1:48:53] Sue’s fascination with Winston Churchill and recommended reading.
- [1:54:24] Common arguments between tango couples.
- [2:07:35] Advice for couples who are in love but lack sexual spark.
- [2:17:02] Advice for couples where the woman has a higher sex drive than the man.
- [2:22:35] Development and content of Sue’s Hold Me Tight Online program.
- [2:27:08] Parting thoughts.
SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE
Connect with Seth Godin:
Website | Seth’s Blog | Instagram | Facebook
- The Song of Significance: A New Manifesto for Teams by Seth Godin | Amazon
- Other Books by Seth Godin | Amazon
- Up in the Air | Prime Video
- Glengarry Glen Ross | Prime Video
- Derek Sivers on Developing Confidence, Finding Happiness, and Saying No to Millions | The Tim Ferriss Show #125
- Spider-Man | Prime Video
- The 4-Hour Chef: The Simple Path to Cooking Like a Pro, Learning Anything, and Living the Good Life by Timothy Ferriss | Amazon
- Chip Conley — Building Empires, Tackling Cancer, and Surfing the Liminal | The Tim Ferriss Show #374
- Do You Need Stephen King’s Pencil? | Ann Kroeker
- How to Overcome Writer’s Block | Dexa AI
- The Simple Cure for Writer’s Block | Seth’s Blog
- 52 Ways to Simplify Your Life by Lynn Gordon and Susan Synarski | Amazon
- A Short History of the Web | CERN
- Is Google Making the Web Stupid? | Seth’s Blog
- All Marketers are Liars: The Underground Classic That Explains How Marketing Really Works — And Why Authenticity Is the Best Marketing of All by Seth Godin | Amazon
- Four Reasons Why Riders Choose Uber | Investopedia
- First, Ten | Seth’s Blog
- Neil Gaiman — The Interview I’ve Waited 20 Years to Do | The Tim Ferriss Show #366
- Stop Stealing Dreams (What Is School For?) by Seth Godin | Seth’s Blog
- Master Marketer Seth Godin Shares His Secret to Bond with His Kids | Lift Enrichment
Connect with Dr. Sue Johnson:
Website | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn
- Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families by Dr. Sue Johnson | Amazon
- Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson | Amazon
- Hold Me Tight Online Program
- What is EFT? | The International Centre For Excellence In Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
- Outcomes Research | Johns Hopkins Medicine
- At the Heart of Health | Cardus
- What Is a Milonga? | Argentine Tango
- How to Live Like a Rock Star (or Tango Star) in Buenos Aires | Tim Ferriss
- Predicting Change in Marital Satisfaction Throughout Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy | Journal of Marital and Family Therapy
- Hamilton Depression Rating Scale (HDRS) | UF Health
- Clinician-Administered PTSD Scale for DSM-5 (CAPS-5) – PTSD | National Center for PTSD
- Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Dr. Sue Johnson | Amazon
- Dyadic Adjustment Scale (DAS) | Fetzer Institute
- Beck’s Depression Inventory | ISMA
- Experiences in Close Relationships Scale (ESR) | Open-Source Psychometrics Project
- A Brief Overview of Adult Attachment Theory and Research | University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign Department of Psychology
- Soothing the Threatened Brain: Leveraging Contact Comfort with Emotionally Focused Therapy | PloS One
- What is Hold Me Tight? | ICEEFT
- My Healing Journey After Childhood Abuse (Includes Extensive Resource List) | The Tim Ferriss Show #464
- Desperado by Eagles | Amazon
- Attachment Parenting Basic Principles and Criticisms | Verywell Family
- Sleep Training Your Child: Myths and Facts Every Parent Should Know | Duke Department of Pediatrics
- Implementing a Student-Sustained No One Dies Alone (NODA) Program at an Academic Institution | Center to Advance Palliative Care
- In Pictures: Politician Mothers Take Their Babies to Work | BBC News
- New Zealand Speaker Cradles MP’s Baby during Parliament Debate | BBC News
- Stroppy | Merriam-Webster
- An Introduction to Rogerian (Person-Centered) Therapy | ThoughtCo.
- Ten Strategies for Evoking Change Talk | UIHI
- Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy | Hakomi Institute
- The Last Lion Box Set: Winston Spencer Churchill, 1874 – 1965 by Paul Reid and William Manchester | Amazon
- What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry | Amazon
- How Winston Churchill Endured the Blitz — and Taught the People of England to Do the Same | Smithsonian Magazine
- Winston Churchill during the First World War in Belgium | Imperial War Museums
- Tango | Wikipedia
- Tango World Record: Tim Ferriss and Alicia Monti | Live with Regis and Kelly
- Los Hermanos Macana | YouTube
- Requiem for a Niño Bien | The Tango Life
- The Cathedral of Tango: Review of Sunderland Club, Buenos Aires, Argentina | Trip Advisor
- The Swan Mating Ritual | Destination Stratford
- Unconscious Desire: The Affective and Motivational Aspects of Subliminal Sexual Priming | Archives of Sexual Behavior
- The Misunderstood Science of Sexual Desire | New York Magazine
- A.R.E. You There? What Is the Secret Ingredient That Makes a Relationship Thrive? | Ondina Wellness
- Sexuality in Older Couples: Individual and Dyadic Characteristics | Archives of Sexual Behavior
PEOPLE MENTIONED
- Jack Lemmon
- Zig Ziglar
- Derek Sivers
- Spider-Man
- Chip Conley
- Stephen King
- Po Bronson
- Lynn Gordon
- Sisyphus
- Mark Hurst
- Larry Ellison
- Neil Gaiman
- Bill Gross
- Steven Spielberg
- James Coan
- John Bowlby
- Carl Rogers
- Winston Churchill
- Oprah Winfrey
- Bruce D. Perry
- Omri Gillath
- Rosemary Basson
- ‪James S. Chisholm
- Edward O. Laumann
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