DeepSummary
Alex Cooper discusses how her friendships have evolved over time, from being overly invested and judgmental of her friends' decisions in college to now having a more mature, hands-off approach that respects their autonomy. She recalls instances where she and her friends would heavily criticize each other's dating choices and even hide details from one another to avoid judgment.
Cooper emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries in friendships and not inserting unsolicited opinions or advice. Instead, she advocates for being a supportive listening ear and allowing friends to make their own decisions without condemnation. She role-plays how to have a conversation with a friend who is overly critical, highlighting the need for open communication and respect for personal boundaries.
Cooper acknowledges that while female friendships can be incredibly deep and meaningful, they can also become toxic if boundaries are not maintained. She encourages listeners to self-reflect on whether they are being judgmental friends and to work on creating relationships built on mutual understanding and support.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Respect your friends' autonomy and personal boundaries when offering advice or opinions.
- Be a supportive listener rather than an overbearing critic when friends share personal issues.
- Self-reflect on whether you are being overly judgmental or invested in your friends' personal lives.
- Communicate openly with friends if you feel they are overstepping boundaries or being overly critical.
- Value the depth of female friendships, but also maintain healthy boundaries to prevent toxicity.
- Don't be afraid to distance yourself from friendships that consistently violate your boundaries or make you feel judged.
- Appreciate friends for who they are, not who you want them to be.
- Allow friends to make their own choices, even if you disagree with those choices.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “When a friend comes to you with a problem, ask them, do you want me to just listen while you vent your fucking ass off? Or do you want my actual advice?“ by Alex Cooper
- “Your opinion is not always wanted, nor is it needed.“ by Alex Cooper
- “There's nothing more beautiful than women and dynamics and friendships. Truly, I have such incredible friendships that it literally makes me cry when I think about it.“ by Alex Cooper
- “So moral of the story is don't be a fucking cunt to your friends and don't take shit from your friends because maybe it's time to get new fucking friends.“ by Alex Cooper
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Episode Information
Call Her Daddy
2/11/24
Join Father Cooper for a Sunday Session where she reveals that the secret to maintaining her adult friendships is by minding her own damn business. Alex reflects on her college years and the ways her friend group got way too entangled in each other’s decisions. She shares some stories of the lengths she would go to hide boys from her friends and gives insight into why she thinks we are all a little too invested in each other's personal lives. Alex breaks down how to create boundaries and have tough conversations with a friend you feel like is judging all your choices. She also flips it around and gives advice for how to be there for a friend without overly inserting yourself in their situation. Enjoy!
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