DeepSummary
In this episode, Kristin Cavallari interviews Dr. Sherry Campbell about effectively co-parenting with a narcissist. They discuss the challenges of dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, such as their manipulation tactics, lies told to the children, and attempts to make the other parent's life miserable. Dr. Campbell emphasizes the importance of documenting everything, keeping communications focused on logistics, and not reacting emotionally to provocations.
They also talk about how to empower children in this situation, giving them a safe space to share their experiences without judgment, and teaching them to find their own voice. Dr. Campbell stresses that children will eventually see through the narcissist's behavior, and advises not to put them in a position of choosing sides.
The discussion explores the narcissist's lack of remorse, their conditional kindness as a way to perpetuate the abuse cycle, and how new relationships can trigger increased harassment. Dr. Campbell offers strategies for self-care, such as focusing on what's within one's control and finding healthy outlets for frustration.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Document all interactions and communications with the narcissistic ex-partner.
- Keep communications focused on logistics and facts, avoiding emotional reactions.
- Empower children by giving them a safe space to share their experiences without judgment.
- Maintain stability and composure during parenting time to avoid destabilizing the children.
- Practice self-care through healthy outlets like exercise and talking to a therapist.
- Understand that children will eventually recognize the narcissist's behavior, even if they temporarily align with them.
- Let go of what cannot be controlled in the narcissist's household, and focus on what is within one's control.
- Seek support from divorce coaches or liaisons who specialize in co-parenting with narcissists.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “They do not feel for anyone but themselves. But they feel very deeply for themselves.“ by Sherry Campbell
- “The more jealousy and emotionally violent, or other kind of violent they may be, if they are going to be around you as the outside person that's not genetically connected to the kids, you don't go.“ by Sherry Campbell
- “Also, if they're able to make you totally unstable when you have your custodial time, they never get winning and. But they never get away from that parent.“ by Sherry Campbell
- “The child always knows who the bad parent is. You cannot be offended or betrayed by children who are only colluding with a mean person to save their lives.“ by Sherry Campbell
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Episode Information
Let's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari
Dear Media
4/9/24
Dr. Sherrie Campbell is back to shed light on this challenging subject. She offers wisdom into not giving them what they want. Plus, tips for navigating this time, how to take your power back, & what to do if they're lying to the kids. We also discuss empowering our kids, how to get the frustration out, what to expect when you get into a new relationship, and a general topic of helping our kids navigate this season of life.
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