DeepSummary
The episode begins with Dr. Orna Guralnik, a psychologist and psychoanalyst from the hit show Couples Therapy, joining Nick to discuss her involvement in the show, the ethics of portraying couples therapy on TV, and her approach to working with couples. They delve into topics such as infidelity, finding the right therapist, and navigating non-monogamous relationships.
The first caller seeks advice on disagreeing with her husband about choosing the sex of their next embryo transfer, with her husband wanting a boy and her preferring a surprise. Nick explores the motivations behind their desires and encourages open communication and acceptance of their choices.
The second caller is anxious about introducing her long-term boyfriend, who is non-religious, to her Christian missionary parents for the first time. Nick advises her to lead with love, set boundaries, and communicate her expectations to her parents without forcing the meeting or projecting her frustrations onto her boyfriend.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Open and honest communication is key in navigating complex relationship dynamics and differing values or expectations.
- Setting boundaries and communicating expectations with parents or loved ones is important, even when dealing with their disappointment or differing values.
- Leading by example and maintaining composure can be a powerful way to demonstrate desired behavior, even when others are not exhibiting it.
- Accepting personal choices and not feeling guilty for decisions that disappoint others, while still maintaining respectful relationships, is crucial.
- Different relationship structures and desires suit different individuals, and it's important to understand and respect personal preferences.
- Broader societal anxieties and concerns can impact individuals' ability to form long-term relationships, beyond just compatibility with partners.
- Seeking professional couples therapy can be beneficial for navigating relationship challenges and gaining new perspectives, but finding the right therapist is essential.
- Infidelity and trust issues can be complex, and couples may need to reframe their relationship dynamics and expectations in order to move forward.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “For some people it feels just right. For some people it's like, I can experiment with this, but, eh, not really my thing. And for some people, it's just like absolutely wrong. That's not what I want. I want, like, my one partner.“ by Dr. Orna Guralnik
- “I'm aware of how you feel about our choice not to have children. I'm fully aware, but I'm just communicating with you that if you make all of our interactions about that decision, then it's going to make our whole relationship about your disappointment in us, and then eventually it's going to affect our relationship.“ by Nick Viall
- “I think the reason people are having a harder time getting into long term relationships is not necessarily about. It's certainly not about there not being the right partner out there. I think it has to do with, like, a much wider kind of anxiety that is gripping society nowadays.“ by Dr. Orna Guralnik
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Episode Information
The Viall Files
Nick Viall
5/28/24
Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! Dr Orna Guralnik, from the hit show Couples Therapy, joins us to talk about the new season and her take on therapy in general. Then we get to our callers…
Our first caller called in because she and her husband disagree on the gender for their next embryo transfer. Her husband wants to guarantee a boy, but she is persistent in leaving it a surprise. Our second caller is nervous because her long-term boyfriend is meeting her Christian missionary parents for the first time. Our caller’s faith is still important to her, but she doesn’t want to disappoint her parents due to her boyfriend’s lack of religion. Our final caller is wondering how to tell her parents that she doesn’t want to have kids and that her husband is getting a vasectomy. She already feels bad about moving to another country, and previous attempts have not ended well.
Season 4 of COUPLES THERAPY premieres May 31 on Paramount+ with SHOWTIME.
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