DeepSummary
The episode discusses the concept of self-assurance and being comfortable in one's own skin. The host, Alexis Fernandez, explains that self-assurance stems from not trying to please others at the expense of oneself and not being afraid to say no or quit things that don't align with one's desires. She emphasizes the importance of identifying one's purpose beyond external factors like career, popularity, or achievements.
Fernandez provides seven points on how to increase self-assurance, including learning to let others down when it comes to decisions about one's own life, getting good at quitting when things don't align with one's interests, and not falling into the trap of feeling responsible for others' happiness. She stresses the need to understand that true happiness comes from within and cannot be derived from external achievements or meeting others' expectations.
Throughout the episode, Fernandez encourages listeners to explore their interests, try new things, and be willing to change paths until they find what truly resonates with them. She emphasizes that self-assurance comes from being comfortable in one's own skin, knowing one's worth, and being true to oneself, regardless of external pressures or societal expectations.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Cultivate self-assurance by letting go of the need to please others and meet their expectations.
- Be willing to quit or change paths when a pursuit no longer aligns with your interests or brings you genuine happiness.
- Understand that true happiness comes from within and cannot be derived from external achievements or meeting others' expectations.
- Explore your passions and interests, and be willing to try new things until you find what truly resonates with you.
- Set boundaries and don't feel responsible for others' reactions or happiness, as that is not within your control.
- Be comfortable in your own skin and know your worth, regardless of external factors like career, popularity, or achievements.
- Prioritize your own desires and happiness over societal or cultural expectations that don't align with your authentic self.
- Practice self-awareness and be willing to reassess and change course when a path or pursuit is no longer serving you.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “True happiness comes from shared happiness. You slogging it out and doing something and someone being quote unquote happy, that's not true happiness. That's all external bullshit. Ego, ego, external shit. Only true happiness can be shared, and that's when you are happy and when they are happy. And you can share it together, but you can't make them happy.“ by Alexis Fernandez
- “If you don't feel that way, if it feels like this crazy resistance against the current, that's probably a sign that it's not for you. If you can't remember the last time that thing made you happy, you should be reassessing.“ by Alexis Fernandez
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Episode Information
Do You F*cking Mind?
LiSTNR
6/2/24
My lovely BEANS I’m currently on vacation in Europe, so we're diving into the back catalogue to revisit one of my favourite episodes all about self-confidence and self-assurance.
It's a topic that I get asked a lot about a lot, and I think it's important to touch on this topic. And I think that self-assurance is something that needs to be worked on all the time just like a muscle, just like your health. So, what is self-assurance and where does it come from? A lot of us struggle to assert ourselves in certain situations, especially when we feel pressure from ourselves, society, our parents, our friends.
If you’re always trying to please others at the expense of yourself then this episode is for you! I've got 7 points for you to follow for what to do to increase your self assurance. Let's do it!
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CREDITS
Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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