DeepSummary
The podcast episode discusses a listener's question about their toddler daughter being asked to wear shorts under her skirts and dresses at daycare. The hosts discuss the potential reasons behind this request, including protecting the child from potential creeps taking inappropriate photos, while also acknowledging the unfairness of putting the burden on girls to cover up rather than addressing problematic behavior.
The hosts provide advice on how to approach the situation, such as having ongoing conversations with children about consent, body autonomy, and safety. They also recommend speaking with the daycare about their policy and the reasoning behind it, while still affirming that it may send an unintended message.
Additionally, the episode features recommendations from the hosts and listeners, including the Lake drawing app, a Shakespeare insult generator book, and the book series 'Throne of Glass.' Listeners also share tips on group travel and preventing the summer learning slide.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- The request for a toddler to wear shorts under skirts at daycare raises concerns about unfairly placing the burden on girls to cover up and prevent inappropriate behavior from others.
- While the policy may stem from a desire to protect children from potential threats, it can send an unintended message that girls are responsible for stopping 'creeps.'
- Open communication with the daycare or school about the reasoning behind such policies is important, as well as having ongoing conversations with children about consent, body autonomy, and safety.
- Teaching boys and men to take responsibility for their behavior and respecting others' boundaries is crucial in addressing the root issue.
- Striking a balance between protecting children from real threats and empowering them with age-appropriate conversations about consent and body agency is key.
- Recommendations and tips from listeners, such as the Lake drawing app, Shakespeare insult generator, and group travel advice, provide additional value to the episode.
- The episode encourages critical thinking and nuanced discussions around sensitive topics related to parenting and child safety.
- Sharing perspectives and advice from different parents and experts helps explore various angles of the issue and offers practical solutions.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “I do think it is unfair, but also that maybe it's something you need to protect your kids against. And that is a. Like, there are lots of things in the world that I feel are unfair, but I can't necessarily fix, but I still have to protect myself and my children against it. So how do you, like, tell these kids that it's unfair and also have the conversations that say, like, it is not your job to keep someone from assaulting you, but also there are these things we do to protect ourselves because there are creepy people.“ by Elizabeth Newcamp
- “I also think there's no harm in asking the school, though. And I certainly, as I started to, like, in my brain think about this, I was thinking, like, I had, you know, uniform standards that was like, you can't. We could get in trouble for a bra strap showing. And, like, how, how unfair that was, but how I think that is so different. And something that I could have said, like, hey, this is really unfair because now I'm in a more closed one. I'm older, right? I'm in a more closed environment. If someone took a photo of a bra strap, I don't know. I have more agency being a bra wearing person than this child at the playground or hanging upside down that has much less understanding of the world and ability for this preschool to protect them against the creepers.“ by Elizabeth Newcamp
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Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show
Slate Podcasts
7/1/24