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In this episode, Lyss discusses her biggest dating turn-offs or 'icks' and dealbreakers that she will not tolerate in 2024. She explains the difference between an 'ick', which is a sudden irrational feeling of aversion or disgust towards someone's trait or behavior, and a dealbreaker, which is a significant moral or ethical incompatibility.
Lyss shares personal stories and examples of situations where she experienced 'icks' or dealbreakers with people she was dating, such as men who were rude to service staff, displayed poor hygiene, or couldn't keep their word. She also includes a list of 24 major icks and dealbreakers compiled from her experiences and online sources, ranging from leaving skid marks on sheets to claiming to be a 'high-value' person.
Throughout the episode, Lyss emphasizes her standards and boundaries when it comes to dating, and her determination not to settle for disrespectful or inconsistent behavior from potential partners. She encourages listeners to set their own standards and not tolerate mistreatment.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Understand the difference between an 'ick' (an irrational feeling of aversion) and a dealbreaker (a significant incompatibility) in dating.
- Be aware of your own personal icks and dealbreakers in dating, and have the self-respect to uphold them.
- Don't settle for disrespectful, inconsistent, or ambiguous behavior from potential partners.
- Set clear boundaries and standards in dating to protect your well-being and self-worth.
- Listen to your intuition and be willing to walk away from situations that don't align with your values and standards.
- Learn from past experiences of true love or healthy relationships to inform your expectations for future partners.
- Be mindful of how you treat others, especially in service roles, as it reflects your character.
- Prioritize finding a partner who respects you, keeps their word, and is fully committed to the relationship.
Top Episodes Quotes
“Anyways, so the same thing can apply to girlfriendships as well. And I've experienced this with a girl that I met last year where she would ask me for plans and then bail at the last second. She did it multiple times in a row. And then I was like, listen, this isn't for me. I don't want to waste my time.“ by Lyss
― This quote shows that Lyss's dealbreaker of not keeping one's word extends beyond romantic relationships to friendships as well, indicating her intolerance for flakiness and disrespect of her time.“If you are here to just waste my time and have me as an option or a backup plan, and you just want me on your roster, that's never going to fly with me and it's never going to happen.“ by Lyss
― This quote encapsulates Lyss's firm stance against being treated as an option or backup plan by potential partners, emphasizing her self-respect and unwillingness to settle.“And I've gotten myself, luckily, out of every situation that I've been faced with ever since I've been single. Anytime a man has given me the indication that they're unsure and very, like, confused about me and they're not really sure, I'll like, immediately pull back and just cut the cord.“ by Lyss
― This quote further reinforces Lyss's determination to remove herself from situations where a potential partner is unsure or confused about their feelings for her, highlighting her self-assurance and refusal to tolerate ambiguity.
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Date Yourself Instead
Lyss Boss
2/12/24
Moving into the new year, I've decided that I have new boundaries and standards when it comes to dating, so here's a full episode about it. As always, send me a DM on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode.
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