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Dr. Maria E. Sophocles, a gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist, discusses the phenomenon she calls the "bedroom gap" - the difference in sexual expectations and capabilities between men and women in midlife due to the effects of menopause. She explains that the loss of estrogen during menopause causes changes in the vagina, including decreased collagen production and blood flow, leading to dryness, pain during sex, and difficulty with arousal and lubrication.
Sophocles contrasts this with the availability of medications like Viagra for men to treat erectile dysfunction, which she believes has widened the bedroom gap. She advocates for increased education and open conversations about menopause and sexual health, as well as the use of vaginal estrogen and other treatments to address the issue. Sophocles emphasizes that women have a right to comfortable and pleasurable sex throughout their lives.
She calls for a reframing of sexual and genital health as a lifelong maintenance issue, improved sex education that prioritizes equal pleasure for both genders, and better medical training on menopause and sexual health. Sophocles believes closing the bedroom gap is a step towards greater sexual equality and overall health benefits for women.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- The "bedroom gap" refers to the difference in sexual expectations and capabilities between men and menopausal women due to hormonal changes.
- Loss of estrogen during menopause can lead to vaginal dryness, pain during sex, and difficulty with arousal and lubrication.
- While treatments like Viagra are available for male sexual dysfunction, there is a lack of widely available and socially accepted options for menopausal women.
- Women have a right to comfortable and pleasurable sex throughout their lives, and their sexual health should be prioritized.
- Increased education, open conversations, and medical advancements are needed to address the "bedroom gap" and promote sexual equality.
- Sexual and genital health should be framed as a lifelong maintenance issue, not just a concern for procreation or male pleasure.
- Comprehensive sex education should prioritize equal sexual pleasure for both genders from the start.
- Closing the "bedroom gap" is a step towards greater gender equality and overall health benefits for women.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “The other day, a woman walked into my office and exclaimed, 'my vagina has betrayed me.'“ by Maria E. Sophocles
- “While middle aged men are benefiting from a rock hard, medically enhanced erection, their female partners are literally left hung out to dry.“ by Maria E. Sophocles
- “We have a right to comfortable sex and a right to pleasurable sex.“ by Maria E. Sophocles
- “It is time for sex ed to prioritize equal sexual pleasure for men and women. So they learn it right from the beginning, when they're starting to have sex.“ by Maria E. Sophocles
- “My big hope is that in closing the bedroom gap, we take one small sexual step towards gender equality for all of us.“ by Maria E. Sophocles
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4/5/24
Menopause isn't just hot flashes, says gynecologist and sexual medicine specialist Maria Sophocles. It's often accompanied by overlooked symptoms like painful sex or loss of libido. Shedding light on what she calls the "bedroom gap," or the difference in sexual expectations of men and women in midlife due to societal norms, Sophocles advocates for education, medical advancement and a new understanding of menopause — because sex should be pleasurable and comfortable for everyone.