DeepSummary
In this episode, Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach respond to questions from their listeners about relationships, conflict resolution, and individuality within partnerships. They discuss the importance of protecting each other's solitude, finding a balance between enmeshment and independence, and learning to understand each other's perspectives during disagreements.
The two share personal anecdotes, such as a humorous incident involving Glennon driving a golf cart, to illustrate the challenges they have faced in their relationship. They emphasize the need for self-regulation, communicating from a place of understanding rather than trying to be right, and approaching conflicts as a team working towards a shared goal.
Glennon and Abby offer insights on topics like the differences between introverts and extroverts, the pitfalls of trying to control a partner's behavior, and the importance of allowing each person in a relationship to maintain their individuality. Throughout the discussion, they stress the value of open and honest communication, empathy, and personal growth within the context of a loving partnership.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Protecting each other's solitude and need for independence is essential in a healthy relationship.
- Approach conflicts as a team working towards a shared goal of understanding, rather than trying to be right or win an argument.
- Self-regulate and communicate from a place of empathy, rather than heightened emotions.
- Falling in love often involves an initial enmeshment, but long-term relationships require rediscovering and nurturing individuality.
- When confronting loved ones about harmful behaviors, focus on communicating your own feelings and boundaries, rather than judging or trying to control them.
- Introverts and extroverts can learn from and complement each other's perspectives and needs within a relationship.
- Conflicts and disagreements are opportunities for growth and deeper understanding, not one-time resolutions.
- Trust that each person in the relationship is working towards a common goal of growth and understanding during conflicts.
Top Episodes Quotes
- โI think that this part is hard. Did she say yes, she's a woman. With a woman, I find the landing part is excruciatingly difficult for lesbians.โ by Glennon Doyle
- โI think it's a fallacy to think if we talk about it and repair it, it will never happen again. I think that that's naive. So, I don't know. I think it's about trying to understand each other more. That's what argument is about, is like, oh, wow. And the more we argue, the more I understand you, the more then I'm capable of trying to relate and interact so that I don't trigger you or you don't trigger me.โ by Abby Wambach
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Episode Information
We Can Do Hard Things
Glennon Doyle and Audacy
5/22/24