DeepSummary
The episode features a conversation with David Haddad, also known as Mister Branzino, a health-tech founder turned creator on a mission to teach dads how to cook. They discuss Haddad's background and passion for cooking, the relationship dynamics between partners regarding household responsibilities like cooking, and his 'PPSCE' system for building a weekly meal plan and teaching dads to become more confident cooks.
Haddad shares insights on why many dads tend to be uncomfortable in the kitchen, with factors like gender norms, fear of failure, and analytical mindsets playing a role. He emphasizes the benefits of dads learning to cook, not just for their families but also for reducing mental load and stress in relationships. He provides a sample meal plan from one of his recent weeks, showcasing how to maximize meals with minimal time through remixing ingredients.
The conversation also touches on Haddad's approach to involving his young son in cooking, the importance of modeling behavior for children, and overcoming the negativity surrounding the difficulties of parenting. Haddad offers advice for dads looking to get started with cooking, suggesting resources like recipe websites and taking it one step at a time.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Many dads struggle with cooking and avoid responsibilities in the kitchen, which can lead to strain and resentment in relationships.
- Learning to cook and taking an active role in meal preparation can significantly benefit relationships and reduce mental load on partners.
- Having a systematic approach like David Haddad's 'PPSCE' system can help dads become more confident and efficient in cooking.
- Involving children in the cooking process can encourage them to develop healthy eating habits and appreciate the effort behind meals.
- Modeling positive behavior and setting the tone is crucial for creating a positive environment for children.
- Dads should start small with cooking, try new recipes, and not be discouraged by initial failures or setbacks.
- Prioritizing family meals and eating together can strengthen family bonds and communication.
- Overcoming gender norms, fear of failure, and analytical mindsets are common hurdles for dads learning to cook.
Top Episodes Quotes
- βIt's so funny. No, I'm not a chef, but I have been cooking for 21 years, you know, in earnest, probably. I would say, like, the last, like, 1015. Like, more seriously, I've been cooking and getting more interested in food, but no, so my background is I'm a product manager.β by David Haddad (Speaker A)
- βIt was really around this relationship dynamics. And so I've heard that like, I've heard of a lot of guys doing this. Like, I have family members, let's say that basically did that type of weaponizing competence, like, not change diapers. They'll, like, they'll mess it up on purpose in order to basically to not, like, have to deal with that type of chore.β by David Haddad (Speaker A)
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Episode Information
Startup Dad
Adam Fishman
5/16/24
David Haddad is a health-tech founder and product manager turned creator. He's now on a mission to teach Dads how to cook with his new company Mister Branzino and the Meal Machine operating system. He runs a newsletter and the Dad Cook Crew community. He's a loving husband and the father of 1 son. In today's conversation we discussed:
* How David developed his passion for cooking
* Why Dads often let this important skill go by the wayside
* The PPSCE system for building a weekly meal plan
* Maximizing meals with minimal time
* How to get more Dads comfortable in the kitchen and building confidence
* Sample meal plans that you can get started with right away
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Where to find David Haddad
* Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhhaddad/Β
* Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/haddadda
* The Meal Machine OS: https://misterbranzino.gumroad.com/l/mealmachine
Where to find Adam Fishman
* FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com
* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/
* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/
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In this episode, we cover
[1:44] Welcome
[1:55] Mr. Branzino mission
[4:10] Ethnicity
[7:20] Met partner/tell about son
[8:13] Epic meal for partner
[9:43] Decision to start a family
[10:17] Weaponized incompetence
[16:43] Most surprising thing about becoming a dad
[17:58] Best practice for modeling behavior
[19:13] Advice to past David
[25:09] Approach to food w/son
[30:32] What Mr. Branzino meals does son love?
[34:24] What makes dads uncomfortable in the kitchen?
[37:13] System to teach a dad how to cook
[42:13] PPSCE
[44:30] Mr. Branzino meal plan
[49:29] Where should dads get inspiration?
[54:00] Disastrous recipeΒ
[55:43] Follow along
[56:51] Rapid fire round
[59:52] Thank you
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Show references:
Mister Branzino Recipe Swipe File: https://www.pinterest.com/misterbranzino/recipe-swipe-file/
Mrs. Doubtfire:https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0107614/
Dumb & Dumber: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0109686/
Chef John/ Food Wishes:https://foodwishes.blogspot.com/
Ny Times Cooking: https://cooking.nytimes.com/
Blue Apron Cooking: Blueapron.com/cookbook
Thich Nhat Hanh: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Th%C3%ADch_Nh%E1%BA%A5t_H%E1%BA%A1nh
Counter stool: https://www.amazon.com/Guidecraft-Classic-Kitchen-Helper-Stool/dp/B00C18NV8C
Instacart: https://www.instacart.com/
Amazon Fresh: https://www.amazon.com/fmc/storefront?almBrandId=QW1hem9uIEZyZXNo
Ted Lasso: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Lasso
Coffee Meets Bagel: https://coffeemeetsbagel.com/
Top Chef: https://www.bravotv.com/top-chef
In n Out: https://www.in-n-out.com/menu
Chick Fil A: https://www.chick-fil-a.com/
Barack Obama: https://www.whitehouse.gov/about-the-white-house/presidents/barack-obama/
Dr. Brazeltonβs Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/T.-Berry-Brazelton/author/B001I9TV4S
Neli deGrasse Tyson: https://neildegrassetyson.com/
Solid Starts: https://solidstarts.com/
Coco: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2380307/
Cocomelon: https://cocomelon.com/
Mental & Emotional Load Articles:
https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/parents/mental-load
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/mom-mental-load_l_63f7a67ee4b0616708e04d9a
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a23469721/emotional-labour-mental-load/
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