DeepSummary
The episode begins with a playful game about wedding traditions, discussing whether certain customs like the garter toss and saving the wedding cake top are outdated or still worthwhile. Host Nick Viall then takes calls from listeners seeking advice.
The first caller is a 23-year-old woman struggling to move past hurtful comments her ex-boyfriend made about her body after her breast reduction surgery. Nick advises her to avoid fact-checking the ex's remarks and instead focus on self-validation and moving forward.
Another caller feels caught in a love triangle with her boyfriend's overbearing mother, who seems unreasonably hostile towards her. Nick counsels the caller to take the high road, communicate openly with her boyfriend, and not give his mother ammunition to claim she's driving a wedge between them.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Don't waste energy trying to understand or validate hurtful comments from exes, which often stem from the person's own insecurities.
- When dealing with traumatic past experiences, be willing to open up gradually rather than making big commitments too soon.
- Set boundaries with hostile or overbearing in-laws, but avoid escalating conflicts that could drive a wedge between you and your partner.
- Reframe self-defeating narratives like feeling caught in a "love triangle" with your partner and their parent.
- Express empathy for the difficulties your partner faces in managing an overbearing parent.
- Focus on what you can control, like your own reactions, rather than trying to change others' behavior.
- Communicate openly with your partner about taking things at your own pace as you work through past hurts.
- Seek therapy and be patient with yourself as you heal from past traumas.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “You don't have to do everything all at once, you know, you don't have to. You don't have to. You know, when someone says, I like you, I think you're hot, you're great. I I would do anything for you. You don't, you don't have to promise the world to them. You don't have to give your heart to these people, you know? And it can be scary to, you know, have someone tell you how strong they feel for you and knowing what happened last time that happened.“ by Nick Viall
- “You can still set a boundary and stand your ground, you know, with him about how his, how his mom treats you. And you can, you can still expect your boyfriend to, at the appropriate time, to stand up for you and his relationship because that's, it comes down to him and how he handles and how he stands up for his mom, you know?“ by Nick Viall
- “The last thing he wants is his girlfriend yelling about him, about how his mom acts. And a lot of people in your shoes would act that way. They would yell at him and be like, how the, you know, blah, blah, blah. But instead you're just like, hey, I'm sorry that happened.“ by Nick Viall
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Episode Information
The Viall Files
Nick Viall
5/13/24
Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We start off by keeping the wedding mood going, and play a game of ‘I do, or I object’. Then we get to our callers…
Our first caller is recently single and is struggling to get over her ex’s comments about her body. She knows her ex was in the wrong, but it's easier said than done to forget without closure. Our second caller feels like she’s in a love triangle with her boyfriend’s mom. After a complicated work situation and weird comments from her boyfriend’s mom… it's clear that she is unwanted. Our final caller is struggling from a past relationship, where he was cheated on. He has a new found love interest, so how should he go about being vulnerable without pushing himself away.
“How do you feel about yourself, you’ve got to remember that… That’s really all that matters.”
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