DeepSummary
Katie Dalebout and Serena Wolf discuss their experiences with anxiety surrounding what other people think of them. They share personal examples of times when they've worried about being judged or misunderstood by others, even if those judgments are only perceived rather than real. Serena mentions struggling with projecting her own insecurities onto how she thinks others view her.
They talk about the difficulty of not taking things personally, especially negative feedback or criticism, even when it comes from a place of trying to be helpful. Katie reads aloud a critical email she received about her podcast, which initially shook her self-confidence before she was able to gain perspective from friends.
The hosts emphasize the importance of focusing on what they can control rather than wasting energy worrying about perceived judgments from others. They note that people are often preoccupied with their own lives rather than critically judging others as much as anxious people might fear. The episode ends with Katie and Serena sharing some highs and lows from their recent experiences.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Worrying about how we are perceived and judged by others is a common source of anxiety, even if those judgments are just perceived rather than real.
- It's important to focus on what we can control rather than ruminating over perceived judgments we have no control over.
- Most people are preoccupied with their own lives rather than critically judging others as much as some fear.
- Don't take perceived criticism too personally - one person's opinion does not equate to everyone feeling that way.
- Reframe perceived negative feedback by extracting any constructive elements while letting go of anything outright rude or unhelpful.
- Build self-confidence by acknowledging growth and positive feedback rather than fixating on negatives.
- Set boundaries when needed and don't feel obligated to people-please at the expense of your own well-being.
- Have self-compassion - worrying about insignificant things is a shared human experience, not something to judge yourself for.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “If you are spiraling, you are not alone. You are not weird or damaged or crazy, and you don't owe anyone an explanation for your mental health.“ by Serena Wolf
- “I think the thing that makes all of this complicated, the what other people think of you conversation that we're into and getting more into is like, it's the rules, not the exceptions, not the rules. You know what I mean? Because, yes, no one is thinking about you usually. But it's like those tiny moments where, like, it's true that one time where, like, at one moment, this person was thinking about me enough to write this email or about, you know, or whatever it is.“ by Katie Dalebout
- “I often think about, like, on, you know, when people talk about the interviews, there was a series of people that were interviewed late in life about things they wish they had done differently. And it's always so interesting to hear because so many people are like, I wish I had spent less time worrying about things that were really inconsequential.“ by Serena Wolf
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Spiraling with Katie Dalebout and Serena Wolf
Katie Dalebout & Serena Wolf, Katie Dalebout , Serena Wolf
9/28/21