DeepSummary
In this episode, host Emily Morse interviews volleyball pro and podcast host Gabby Reese. They discuss Gabby's approach to maintaining a strong marriage with her husband, surfer Laird Hamilton, after 28 years together. Gabby emphasizes the importance of open communication, being vulnerable, and not letting resentments build up. She shares her "sex rules" for keeping Laird happy, which includes respecting his masculinity, giving him space, providing food and sex, and allowing him to be tender.
Gabby also talks about the roles of "farmer" and "flower" that she and Laird take on, supporting each other's careers and passions. She stresses the need for women to develop themselves independently while also bringing softness and kindness to relationships with men. Gabby advises young women to prioritize their own desires and not just focus on pleasing their partners during sex.
The conversation touches on topics like the difficulties of maintaining intimacy with young children, using Byron Katie's self-inquiry method, and the importance of self-care through activities like weight training. Throughout, Gabby emphasizes a pragmatic yet compassionate approach to relationships and personal growth.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Openly communicate needs and desires in relationships, even when it feels uncomfortable.
- Develop independence and self-sufficiency, while also bringing softness and compassion to relationships.
- Prioritize your own sexual fulfillment and don't just focus on pleasing your partner.
- Maintain healthy boundaries while showing kindness in relationships with men.
- Don't let resentments build up - address issues promptly.
- Make time for intimacy, even with the challenges of parenthood.
- Engage in self-inquiry practices to challenge limiting beliefs.
- Incorporate weight training and self-care into your routine.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “I'll preface this by saying, you know, there's sort of things that are out of your control. Like the fact that I met Laird at 25 years old and was uncontrollably drawn to him like a magnet. And everything on paper was not good. We didn't live in the same place. Laird was in a. Not in a great marriage. He had a four month old daughter. My oldest daughter was four months old. There was a lot of things, and I'm a pretty practical person that were. It's like, eh, no go. There was an internal draught alert that, um, you know, it's good. It's. Is it good luck? Is it kism? I don't know. So there's a lot of that part that I would say. I'm not smart enough to have chosen that dynamic. I was drawn to Laird and I felt that same thing from Laird and I really deeply trusted that.“ by Gabby Reese
- “It's really healthy and natural and beautiful, and it doesn't have to be taboo. And just because you might like it a certain way, that's okay, too. And then within that same breath, I think we have made way too much of it.“ by Gabby Reese
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Sex With Emily
Dr. Emily Morse
6/21/24