DeepSummary
This is the transcript of a podcast episode where host Emily Morse interviews Matthew Hussey, a dating expert and author of the book 'Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily No Matter What.' They discuss Matthew's journey as a relationship coach, the importance of self-love and valuing oneself, and how to overcome unhealthy dating patterns by retraining our instincts and beliefs.
Matthew shares personal experiences of dealing with chronic pain and anxiety, and how it led him to develop a different perspective on self-worth and happiness. He emphasizes the need to shift from looking for validation from others to understanding that our job is to give ourselves the best life possible, much like how a parent loves their child unconditionally.
The conversation also touches on topics like trust issues, jealousy, ghosting in dating, and the role of leadership in romantic contexts. Matthew encourages being curious about different experiences, modeling the behavior one wants to see from a partner, and giving oneself closure instead of waiting for it from others.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- The importance of self-love and valuing oneself, rather than seeking validation from others.
- Recognizing and retraining unhealthy instincts and beliefs that stem from our past experiences.
- Taking a leadership role in one's love life by modeling the behavior and culture one wants to see in a partner.
- Being curious about different experiences and perspectives, rather than assuming one's own experience is the only truth.
- The value of giving oneself closure and not waiting for it from others, especially in the context of dating.
- The distinction between instincts and intuition, and the need to trust one's intuition over learned survival instincts.
- The importance of having standards and boundaries in relationships, and the courage to uphold them.
- The concept of 'happy enough' as an achievable and realistic goal, rather than striving for an idealized version of happiness.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “If you don't like the culture, don't buy it. Create your own.“ by Matthew Hussey
- “Out of 8 billion people on this earth, you are the only one, the only person out of those 8 billion who is responsible for the human that is you. You're the only one who has custody of that particular human being. And if you look at it that way, what you realize is your whole job in life is to give that human the best life you can.“ by Matthew Hussey
- “We have to start seeing our instincts as just the survival instincts we learned. They're not the truth, and that doesn't make them the best instincts we could have.“ by Matthew Hussey
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Sex With Emily
Dr. Emily Morse
4/26/24