DeepSummary
The episode starts with a promotional ad for Ritual prenatal vitamins. After that, the hosts have a discussion about fireworks and whether it's legal to light them in Los Angeles. The first caller is Olivia, a 32-year-old woman who got laid off from her job and is now having second thoughts about her upcoming wedding due to increased insecurity and self-doubt. Nick advises her to separate the job loss from her relationship and focus on appreciating her partner's support during this difficult time.
The second caller is Kelly, 25, who is pregnant again after a previous miscarriage. However, her sister had expressed happiness about the previous miscarriage because she wanted to be the first one in the family to have a child. Kelly is unsure how to tell her sister about the new pregnancy. Nick suggests writing a letter to express her feelings while still leading with love and validating her sister's emotions.
The third caller is Ava, 32, who wants to cut off her grandmother after a heated argument where the grandmother made hurtful comments about Ava's parenting and family. Nick advises Ava to forgive her grandmother, understand that her behavior likely stems from past trauma, and set boundaries instead of cutting her off completely.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Separate personal issues from relationships and avoid making rash decisions based on temporary circumstances.
- Communicate openly and with empathy, validating others' feelings while also expressing your own perspective.
- Set healthy boundaries when necessary, but approach conflicts with a mindset of forgiveness and understanding.
- Seek to understand the root causes of others' hurtful behavior, as it often stems from their own pain or trauma.
- Lead with love, even in difficult conversations, and strive to maintain connections while respecting differing perspectives.
- Practice self-awareness and gratitude, especially during challenging times, and be willing to work on personal growth.
- Avoid making assumptions about what others deserve or don't deserve; focus on your own needs and boundaries.
- Consider writing letters to express complex emotions more clearly and allow others to process before responding.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “When we say our partners don't deserve someone who's confused or insecure about themselves or questioning x, y, or z, like, who are we to say what our partners don't and don't deserve, I kind of think it's a cop out to be, to be honest again, we can dive into your relationship and take some time to figure out where you're at versus your job.“ by Nick Viall
- “I think it's really hard when I'm so down and, you know, anxious or depressed or whatever that I know that something I need to work on is, you know, having gratefulness.“ by Olivia
- “I do think that just validating their feelings is a good way to go about it because sometimes I do try to defend myself or I try to explain why I'm trying to do things, but that's really hard to do. And they're not going to ever think the same way.“ by Kelly
- “Yeah, and I think it's a bit why it caught me so off guard. So I do think that it would be worth addressing. And I do want to go with love because I don't. I don't hate my sister. I don't. I'm not even super mad at her. I just. I feel hurt because I love her and I want to be loved back by my sister.“ by Kelly
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Episode Information
The Viall Files
Nick Viall
7/1/24
Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We start off the episode with a written Ask Nick. Then we get to our callers…
Our first caller just got laid off and is having second thoughts about her wedding. Our second caller is expecting, but doesnt know how to tell her sister (who was happy she miscarried prior). And, our third caller wants to cut her grandma off.
“Let’s figure out what the real truth of the situation is.”
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