DeepSummary
Ryan Holiday begins this episode by introducing the concept of the Stoic philosophy and how it has guided great thinkers throughout history. He then discusses the difference between urges and actions, emphasizing that feeling temptation and acting upon it are separate. Seneca's advice to delay acting on impulses is highlighted as a way to create space for better decision-making.
Holiday shares insights from Dr. Becky Kennedy's book 'Good Inside' about teaching children to recognize urges without acting on them, allowing them to develop self-regulation. He suggests that this approach is equally valuable for adults in managing unhelpful impulses and opinions.
The episode concludes with Holiday promoting the Daily Stoic Tame Your Temper Challenge, which aims to help individuals better manage their temper and impulsive behaviors. He acknowledges his own continual efforts to work on his temper and encourages listeners to explore the course.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- There is a difference between experiencing an urge and acting upon it, and the ability to separate the two is a key principle of Stoicism.
- Delaying impulsive actions and creating space for reflection can lead to better decision-making.
- Acknowledging and humanizing urges, rather than suppressing them, can aid in self-regulation and decision-making.
- While achieving complete control over opinions may be difficult, refraining from expressing unhelpful opinions is a more attainable goal.
- Managing one's temper and impulsive behaviors is an ongoing practice, and resources like the Daily Stoic Tame Your Temper Challenge can provide guidance.
- The Stoic philosophy offers practical wisdom for navigating everyday challenges and cultivating self-control.
- Teaching children to recognize and manage urges can help them develop self-regulation skills that are valuable throughout life.
- Identifying the space between urge and action is an essential step in applying Stoic principles to daily life.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “There's a difference between urge and action. It's pretty simple, but we are sometimes so hard on ourselves that we forget there's a difference between urge and action, being tempted and indulging temptation.“ by Ryan Holiday
- “Parents often have the goal of getting rid of the urge, she writes, what's wrong with you? Why would you want to hurt someone? But it's better, she says, if we can try humanizing the urge and then shifting where we allow a child to discharge it because it allows the child to gain regulation and over time make better decisions.“ by Ryan Holiday
- “The urge is human. The ability to restrain from, to mitigate and redirect that urge. That's stoicism. That's what we should be trying to get better at.“ by Ryan Holiday
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The Daily Stoic
Daily Stoic | Wondery
4/17/24
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