DeepSummary
In this episode, Chase interviews Dr. Jolie Hamilton, a relationship coach and expert on non-monogamous relationships. They discuss the process of transitioning from a monogamous to a non-monogamous relationship, including how to communicate the idea with a monogamous partner, and the importance of developing strong relationship skills. The conversation also covers the common experience of jealousy in non-monogamous relationships, with Jolie providing a step-by-step roadmap for understanding and working through jealous feelings.
Jolie emphasizes that opening up a relationship requires conscious effort and intention, as it often exposes insecurities and areas for personal growth. She recommends taking time to educate oneself on non-monogamy, unpack personal narratives around jealousy, and develop communication skills before attempting to open up a relationship. The episode highlights the potential challenges and rewards of pursuing a non-traditional relationship structure.
While non-monogamy may not be suitable for everyone, Jolie encourages an open and curious approach to exploring different relationship styles. She stresses that dealing with emotions like jealousy can lead to profound personal growth, regardless of the relationship format. The episode aims to provide a nuanced perspective on non-monogamous relating for those considering or currently engaged in it.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Transitioning from a monogamous to a non-monogamous relationship requires conscious effort, intention, and personal growth.
- Open and effective communication with partners is crucial when exploring non-monogamous relating.
- Developing strong relationship skills, such as emotional regulation and boundary-setting, is essential for navigating non-monogamous dynamics.
- Jealousy is a common experience in non-monogamous relationships, and learning to understand and work through jealous feelings can facilitate personal growth.
- Educating oneself and unpacking personal narratives around non-monogamy and jealousy is an important initial step before opening up a relationship.
- While challenging, pursuing a non-monogamous relationship structure can provide opportunities for self-discovery and deepening connections with partners.
- A curious, non-judgmental approach is recommended when exploring non-traditional relationship styles, as what works for one person may not work for another.
- Non-monogamy is not a solution for fixing existing relationship issues, but rather a conscious choice that requires ongoing effort and communication.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “So, Chase, this is, it is such an interesting process to me that my draw to it is because it isn't straightforward.“ by Jolie Hamilton
- “So we do need to introduce ourselves to happy, boring non monogamy.“ by Jolie Hamilton
- “The number one skill that someone could come in with, often people imagine that the number one skill that they could have is communication. I actually think that the number one skill you can have to do this well is a really excellent imagination combined with the capacity to regulate yourself.“ by Jolie Hamilton
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Relationship Advice
Hosted by: Chase Kosterlitz, Produced by: Sarah Kosterlitz
4/24/24