DeepSummary
The hosts discuss soft startups and repairs, which are communication techniques for resolving conflicts in relationships. They talk about the importance of using 'I' statements instead of 'you' statements to avoid blaming and using a soft tone to initiate difficult conversations. They also emphasize the need for positive affirmations, physical touch, and finding moments of levity during tense situations to de-escalate conflicts.
The hosts share personal examples and hypothetical scenarios to illustrate how soft startups and repairs can be effectively used. They highlight the significance of journaling, processing emotions, and understanding each other's perspectives to have productive conversations and resolve issues. The conversation also touches on the role of borderline personality disorder and abandonment issues in communication challenges.
The hosts stress the importance of being responsible for one's own mental health, triggers, and communication techniques. They discuss the need for creating a safe environment where partners can openly share their discomforts and fears without judgment or criticism. The episode aims to provide insight and tools for healthier communication and conflict resolution in relationships.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Use 'I' statements instead of 'you' statements to avoid blaming and promote productive communication.
- Employ soft startups, positive affirmations, physical touch, and finding moments of levity to de-escalate conflicts and facilitate productive conversations.
- Journaling and slowing down one's thought process can aid in effective communication and conflict resolution.
- Recognize and repair harsh startups as soon as they occur to prevent escalation of conflicts.
- Create a safe environment where partners can openly share their discomforts and fears without judgment or criticism.
- Take responsibility for one's own mental health, triggers, and communication techniques.
- Understand each other's perspectives and emotional states to have more productive conversations and resolve issues.
- Continuously work on personal growth and communication skills to improve conflict resolution abilities in relationships.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “I would like to believe that we would be able to realize that both of our worlds are fucked up and we can kind of check in in the moment because we have more knowledge than most people do because of the last fucking two years of self help books and all the shit that we've been doing.“ by Chris
- “Yesterday in the car, there was an instant brought up and the tone in which things were said. I now feel insecure.“ by Peaches
- “You are defusing and repairing that harsh startup within the first. As soon as you realize that that has happened.“ by Chris
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2 Be Better
Chris Burkett
5/10/24
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