DeepSummary
In this episode of the Do The Work podcast, host Sabrina Zohar welcomes special guest Masha Kay to discuss the importance of trusting oneself and understanding triggers in the healing journey. They delve into the concept of self-trust, which does not necessarily mean making perfect decisions, but rather being able to handle the consequences of one's choices and emotions. Masha emphasizes the distinction between trusting one's feelings and trusting the distorted perception of reality during dysregulation.
Sabrina shares personal experiences to illustrate the gradual process of building self-trust, such as validating her emotions, taking small steps, and learning to trust that she will be okay, even when situations do not go as planned. Masha also reflects on her own journey, acknowledging that her earlier perfectionism stemmed from a lack of self-trust and the fear of making mistakes.
The episode highlights the importance of starting small, validating one's feelings, and taking gradual actions to build self-trust. Masha and Sabrina remind listeners that self-trust is not about being perfectly regulated all the time, but rather about acknowledging dysregulation, validating emotions, and trusting the ability to handle challenges as they arise.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Self-trust does not mean making perfect decisions, but rather trusting one's ability to handle the consequences of choices and emotions.
- It is important to distinguish between trusting one's feelings and trusting the distorted perception of reality during dysregulation.
- Building self-trust is a gradual process that involves validating one's emotions, taking small steps, and learning to trust that one will be okay, even when situations do not go as planned.
- Perfectionism and the fear of making mistakes can stem from a lack of self-trust.
- Self-trust is not about being perfectly regulated all the time, but rather about acknowledging dysregulation, validating emotions, and trusting the ability to handle challenges as they arise.
- Starting small, validating feelings, and taking gradual actions are crucial steps in building self-trust.
- Self-trust and positive emotions often come after taking action and facing challenges, rather than before.
- Accepting discomfort, triggers, and the notion that life is challenging can enable one to build self-trust more rapidly.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “But there is nuance in the sense that when we're saying, okay, I want you to develop self trust, it's not. It does not necessarily mean that how you perceive a situation is always exactly what that is.“ by Masha Kay
- “I don't necessarily need you to consistently trust and validate your perception of reality or your perception of a situation, because if you're dysregulated, I actually want you to acknowledge I'm probably not seeing this clearly. It's probably a little bit distorted.“ by Masha Kay
- “So that's the part we want to start by trusting ourselves with our feelings.“ by Masha Kay
- “And honestly, for most of us, you know, that clarity and self trust and like, the positive emotions we associate with the things you and I are talking about is going to come after taking the action we take, and we're like, oh, I actually feel really calm about this, or I feel really empowered of, oh, that was terrifying. But I can't believe I did that.“ by Masha Kay
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Do The Work
Do The Work
4/12/24
around nervous system regulation and self-trust development. Nervous system
dysregulation goes hand in hand with how we view ourselves and our perception of
reality. How can we validate our feelings despite dysregulation and our distorted
perception of reality and decide on the best decision? Masha delves into how “trusting
yourself” starts with trusting your emotions, holding space for processing your emotions,
and then paving the way to decide. The decision may not be the best down the road (is
there ever a definite and immediate way to know?), but as long as it honors what you
were feeling at the moment and you accept the consequences down the road.
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