DeepSummary
In this episode, the host Tam Kaur discusses the concept of becoming 'self-obsessed' in dating and relationships. She argues that women often sabotage themselves by lacking self-love and settling for low-effort partners who don't meet their standards. Kaur emphasizes the importance of building a strong foundation of self-worth and clearly defining one's desires in a partner before entering the dating world.
Kaur provides actionable steps to cultivate self-obsession, such as treating oneself like a significant other, creating a detailed checklist of desired partner qualities, and surrounding oneself with positive relationship examples. She also stresses the importance of valuing one's time, being selective with potential partners, and mastering detachment from unhealthy connections.
Throughout the episode, Kaur encourages women to act like a 'prize' in dating by being confident, setting clear boundaries, and not being overly available. She emphasizes that by prioritizing self-love and refusing to settle, women will attract partners who align with their values and desired lifestyles.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Cultivate self-love and self-obsession before entering the dating world
- Have clearly defined standards and a checklist of desired qualities in a partner
- Don't settle for partners who display low-effort or bare minimum behavior
- Value your time and energy - don't give it to undeserving partners
- Master the art of detachment from unhealthy connections
- Act like a 'prize' by being confident and setting boundaries
- Don't be overly available - make partners earn your time
- Trust that the right partner will come when you prioritize yourself first
Top Episodes Quotes
- “Stop putting other people's feelings and time above your own. We also waste so much of our time giving people the benefit of the doubt or trying to see past their shitty behavior.“ by Tam Kaur
- “When you are self obsessed and you are so abundant, you would never even be thinking about that because you know it's going to come. You know, you're so deserving and you're so worthy of it that it's never a matter of if, it's just a matter of when.“ by Tam Kaur
- “You are living in a limited mindset. When you are self obsessed and you are so abundant, you would never even be thinking about that because you know it's going to come.“ by Tam Kaur
- “Mastering detachment is about taking them off the pedestal and to stop obsessing over, oh, but we have this connection, and they make me feel a way that I've never felt before. You need to understand a lot of that magic and that experience you felt will was you.“ by Tam Kaur
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Episode Information
Self Obsessed
Tam Kaur
11/29/23