DeepSummary
In this episode, host Sabrina Zohar welcomes Neuropsychotherapist Britt Frank to discuss love and social media addiction, the addiction cycle, and what happens in the brain during rejection. They delve into the science behind addiction patterns and how our brains can become wired to crave dysregulation, even in seemingly harmless behaviors like checking an ex's social media. Britt shares insights from her personal and professional experiences, emphasizing the importance of understanding brain processes to break unhealthy cycles.
Sabrina and Britt explore the notion that often people who claim to be ready for a relationship are actually unconsciously avoiding intimacy due to childhood wounds. They discuss the challenges of sitting with discomfort and reframing healthy behaviors as uncomfortable at first, but necessary for growth. Britt stresses the need for small, consistent changes to rewire the brain, rather than drastic overhauls that can overwhelm the mind.
The conversation touches on topics like setting boundaries, having compassion without enabling harmful behavior, and the importance of consistency over time in assessing a partner's character. Sabrina shares her own journey of self-awareness and personal growth, while Britt offers practical tools and perspectives for listeners struggling with addictive patterns in relationships or social media.
Key Episodes Takeaways
- Our brains can become wired to crave dysregulation and addictive patterns, even in seemingly harmless behaviors like checking an ex's social media.
- Oftentimes, people who claim to be ready for a relationship are actually unconsciously avoiding intimacy due to childhood wounds.
- Making small, consistent changes is more effective for rewiring the brain than drastic overhauls that can overwhelm the mind.
- True discipline is about consistency, not intense bursts of effort that can lead to burnout or self-criticism.
- Consistency over time is key to assessing a partner's character and compatibility, rather than relying on limited interactions.
- Sitting with discomfort and reframing healthy behaviors as initially uncomfortable but necessary for growth is crucial.
- Having compassion for oneself and others does not mean enabling harmful behavior; boundaries are still important.
- Self-awareness and understanding the brain's processes can help break unhealthy cycles and patterns.
Top Episodes Quotes
- “And shame will change behavior. But shame will not change how your brain is wired in a healthy, sustainable way. So even if you quit the drugs, even, and I did, there was a time where no drugs, no boys, no nothing. And I was really not, I wasn't even there. I was in like, this dissociative haze.“ by Britt Frank
- “I define it like this. Consistency over time.“ by Britt Frank
- “If you have this huge story about a person with 6 hours of exposure to them, you don't have the miles log to make an informed decision.“ by Britt Frank
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3/1/24
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